Dear “late” bloomers,
YOU ARE NOT LATE!
You’re simply a masterpiece in progress, that’s why it’s taking so long. Just think about it. All the best books that were written, the best films that were made, the best food, the best paintings, the best friendships, what do they all have in common? THEY ALL TOOK A VERY BLOODY LONG TIME TO BE FORMED, TO BE CREATED!
You don’t have to follow someone else’s clock. Don’t worry; Sarah might have gotten her period early. Jeff might have always known that he wanted to be an engineer, and have always worked hard and made amazing progress. Kelly might know how to play the Guitar, the flute , the keyboard and the Tabla and she’s only 15. Daniel might have had his first girlfriend by the time he was 13, and that’s okay! It doesn’t mean you have to also have achieved all these things by that age.
Sarah might be excited about her period now, but just you wait and watch in a few more years both of you will be complaining together and sharing embarrassing stories with each other. And nobody is going to care about who got it first, you would all just want it to end! Jeff might start doubting his plans when he’s at University, he might suddenly not want to follow his previous career plans and might even drop out and start doing something COMPLETELY DIFFERENT AND WAY WAY OUT OF HIS PLAN, like maybe YouTube and he will be happy with his decision. Kelly might not even enjoy playing any of those instruments that her mom forces her to learn, she might be admiring your sick beat boxing skills or your ability to make exotic animal noises from afar. And Daniel? Poor Daniel, that guy might get he’s sweet heart ripped into shreds mercilessly, and he might regret having rushed into the dating world so fast.
The point is, good things-no-THE BEST things always take time. Patience is just something you will have to learn. You may not have boobs yet, but when you get them, you’ll love them, you’ll know it was worth the wait. And once you get over the whole “comparing them to Sarah’s” phase, you will see that they are perfect on you. It’s like they were specifically designed for you. And when you figure out finally what you want to do with your life, what your dream is , at the age of 20, you’ll be happy because you finally found your passion, your goal and you will work hard and will eventually make progress. You will find out your talent at some point, I promise. You just need to try everything out before you figure it out. If you just sit and watch others and keep saying “I wish” nothing’s going to happen. You got to do it, try and then and only then will you know for sure. And it doesn’t have to be something extraordinary. Being able to make dolphin sounds is good enough, personally I wish i could do that. Nobody is ever born into this world being naturally good at something, they might have talent but they will never discover if they don’t try things out or practice whatever it is. Like art. My dad is a great artist and I am suppose to have those genes but I don’t practice enough to be very good at it, but i randomly produce good paintings sometimes and then other times i cannot draw at all.
Things like instruments and sports, they require hours of practice and training as well. You cannot master them over night, unless of course you’re a prodigy or an alien. So don’t worry if you cannot play Fur Elise smoothly yet, or if you haven’t quite mastered playing with both hands, it’s okay if you’re having trouble reading music. The more you play and practice, the faster you’ll get better. And one day you’ll do it and it will be glorious. Trust me, i always wanted to learn to play ‘ I can’t help falling in love with you’ on the ukulele but i never thought i’d make any progress cause I didn’t believe i had enough talent to master an instrument cause after all, I am a failed Piano student. But a few weeks later I not only learnt how to play ‘I can’t Help falling in love’ but i also learnt to play Bubbly by Colbie Cailatt and a few other songs and recently i composed a little tune of my own, and I was SO DAMN HAPPY AND SURPRISED AND PROUD! I achieved something i never thought I’d be able to do. I learnt an instrument, I learnt to play songs. And I still cannot believe that’s something I manage to teach myself to do. And me being a massive procrastinator and still being able to do this? that proved to me that there is no such thing as Impossible.
I have been told that I’m a late bloomer quite a few times. Everyone seemed to experience/ learn things before me. I use to think i might have missed on these experiences somehow. But a couple of days ago in the shower I realized that I am not late. Everything takes it’s own time. We’re all running the same race but each one of us may have different obstacles and a different timer.
I am writing this for you and to myself, to remind myself sometimes that things may not go the way we want them to. Things may not last as long as we want them to. It might not happen as fast we want it to, but when it happens it’ll be the right time. And this timing will have a big impact on shaping the person that each one of us is to become one day.
So just pray for patience and guidance. Talk to people about it. If you have a dream, a goal but you’re having great difficulty in making any progress? Find another friend who shares the same or similar goals and is also struggling, and you guys push each other and support each other. This friend maybe hard to find, but just keep your eyes peeled, talk about your interests and your ambitions more often and you will find each other.
I hope this was useful in someway and it put your worrisome soul at ease at least for now.
And if you’re a fellow young amateur writer/blogger (like me) or just a nerd in general (also like me)and you haven’t found a friend to share your interests with, then maybe drop me a message on twitter (@bitsofjuju) or my Instagram (@doodett) I will be more than happy to fangirl with you and support you.
your self-appointed president.
Stay awesome ya’ll!